his can be found on the Internet at: ABUSE: [theory] The Alt Sex Anti-Abuse Dream Team I wrote this post in 2010 for the high-profile feminist blog Feministe. If I were to write it today, then I would write it differently. In particular, if I were writing it today, then I would emphasize that there are act

e cultural factors that makes it hard to discuss sensory, sensual experiences without defaulting to sexuality. As commenter saurus pointed out on the Feministe version of part 1 of this post: Sometimes I think that we have compulsions, needs or "fetishes" that aren't sexual, but lumping them in with sexuali

ness: HOUSE_OVERSIGHT_018508 When this article was first posted, a guy grabbed the first comment on the version that I posted to the feminist blog Feministe, protesting that I clearly don't get the men's side of this equation. I don't usually get super angry about comments on the Internet, but in that cas

that even better. te Ok ok Brainwashing: Intimacy Within Abuse In late 2010, I cross-posted an article about an intense S&M experience to the blog Feministe. In the article, I included these words: There it was. I felt the tears building, gasps torn from my throat, I felt myself starting to fall apart an