ing" as the same sensation. I usually separate them a bit more, but I'm not sure how many other people separate them.) The BDSM and polyamory writer Franklin Veaux defines "thud" as "sensation of heavy, dull impact” and defines "sting" as "sensation of quick, sharp pain." These words are most often applied to fl

generation ahead of me include Pat Califia and Gayle Rubin, who are both brilliant. Online I usually direct total newbies to this BDSM 101 page by Franklin Veaux: http://www.xeromag.com/fvbdsm.html As it happens, the same writer has a good Polyamory 101, too: http://www.xeromag.com/ fvpoly.html There are a l

tiple lovers and be honest with everyone involved. Polyamory usually focuses more on an emotional relationship than swing, but not always. The writer Franklin Veaux has a good Polyamory 101: http://www. xeromag. com/fvpoly.html And the blog Polyamory In The News has a guard post on the various distinctions betwee