rver January 27, 2003 SECTION: MEDIA & SOCIETY; Crime Blotter, Pg. 2 LENGTH: 925 words HEADLINE: Crime Blotter BYLINE: Ralph Gardner Jr. BODY: Socialite's Investigation Revealslt Was the Butler -- and the Maid If you're a wealthy socialite, there's nothing quite like having a hard- working, presentable maid or butler in servi